Men, You Deserve More Than Just the Hustle: Finding True Success

In recent times, especially on platforms like X (formerly Twitter), there’s been a growing trend of young men in their 20s boasting about their nonstop hustle. They wear their lack of rest and personal time as a badge of honor, thinking it proves their dedication to success. However, what they see as a “flex” is often a cry for help.

I, too, fell into this mindset. I once believed that constant grinding would eventually lead to success and happiness. But for most, that day never comes. There’s always another goal, another task, another milestone. Contentment remains out of reach as they chase the next achievement.

I speak from experience. I missed precious time with my family and friends because I was obsessed with career success. Looking back, those moments with loved ones held far more value than the milestones I was pursuing. But while immersed in the hustle, I was blind to what truly mattered.

I’ve also lost friends to suicide and addiction, and I often think of them, wishing I could tell them about the moments that truly define life — birthday parties, family vacations, shared meals, and nights filled with laughter. These are the things that give life its real richness, not career accomplishments or social media followers.

Society has long pressured men to hustle constantly, to work nonstop, and to tie their worth to productivity. But this relentless grind doesn’t make you more of a man; instead, it can lead to burnout, depression, and loneliness.

In my 20s, I bought into the myth of hustle culture. I believed that being busy all the time gave me purpose. But in reality, it disconnected me from the things that truly mattered — my family, health, and simple joys. I sacrificed my well-being for the illusion of success.

One night, sitting alone, exhausted, and emotionally drained, I realized that no professional success could replace the joy and connection I was missing. It was a wake-up call. I knew I had to change. When I reflected on the moments that mattered most, it wasn’t the promotions or salary increases. I cherished the shared laughter, family outings, and conversations with friends the most.

Now, I prioritize balance. I make space for joy, relationships, and rest. I leave work on time, take days off, and prioritize time with my loved ones. I enjoy quiet evenings with my partner, take my son to the park, and block out time for game nights with friends.

I’m writing this because I’ve seen firsthand how alluring hustle culture can be, especially for young men seeking purpose and success. But this path often leads to burnout and regret. You deserve better.

You deserve balance. You deserve deep relationships, joy, and moments of pure happiness. You deserve to disconnect, rest, and recharge. Life isn’t about constant productivity; it’s about cherishing the moments that make it all worthwhile.

If I could give advice to my younger self or anyone falling into the hustle trap, it would be this: Don’t believe the myth that nonstop work is the key to a fulfilling life. Find meaningful work, but also make time for play, relationships, and self-care. Create memories that will make you smile years from now.

In the end, true success isn’t about the grind or the hustle. It’s about living fully, loving authentically, and appreciating what matters most.

Life is incredibly precious and fleeting. Don’t sacrifice the best parts chasing after things that won’t bring lasting happiness. If all you do is work, you’ll miss out on the moments that make life truly meaningful.